Lliira

It's weird to think that's just a few hours from now my dad is going to be over here. Patrick's parents are coming over too, and his dad is going to bring a strimmer to cut the front garden's grass down. I told Patrick I'd rather us leave the back garden for now for the bees (we have a lot of wildflowers growing back there!).

Patrick has not started this 'cleaning' he speaks of yet, but as mentioned, I'm working on not worrying about it and instead, if he continues going down this road, I will be working on buying him out of the house. Then I could turn that room into an office and guest room, and not feel like it's unfair when I'm cleaning the house, weeding, gardening, or repairing/improving/maintenance things on my own.)

Anyway, the time before my dad gets here gives me about five hours - in my cleaning terms, up to 5 loads of washing - to work on the house before my dad arrives. Really, I just need to wash my other set of bed-sheets, vacuum my room, take out some rubbish, and deep-clean the bathroom (it is clean, just not deep-cleaned). I'll have to go over the house with a vacuum again, because, well, Jake and I just bring in grass from our daily walks.

One of the long-items in my to-do list is to get a mud-room out at the front (basically, an indoor patio area) to store our shoes. But, that would be after re-levelling and paving the garden.

Aaaaaanyway. I'm excited about getting dad, but my main goal list today is:

- Give Jake a bath/clean his ears.
- Start the bed-sheets (today is warm weather meaning it can air-dry, part of why I'll be washing Jake first.)
- While that is going I'm hoping to get the downstairs vacuumed (again), my room fully tidied and vacuumed, possibly manage to get the glass clean, beyond not having a place for Jake's toys yet (when I get tools, I'm thinking I will build a toy box.)
- Next load - bathroom. Like I said it has been cleaned, but, I'm hoping to give it a detail clean. I didn't do it yesterday because I'd found some water at the corner of the shower enclosure again, so I'd tried putting down some new grout. If I still see water outside the tray, I'm getting a second opinion from a new plumber because I can't find a hole in the grout anywhere.

I did get rid of the big rosebush yesterday, and Patrick's dad will bring the strimmer, so the grass out front will be cut. I haven't gotten the house soft-washed yet, I've been told that will be £500. So that's a few months down the road unless I get a job that pays more along the way, especially because Patrick seems to refuse to understand how the breakdown of the house goes.

Basically, I'd said moving in we should pay £450 each to cover mortgage, rates, internet, oil, electricity, insurance, minor repairs and cleaning supplies.

Which I'd say is a decent breakdown:

£900-515-50-50-50-50-80= £135 to work with, give or take.

The problem is he keeps thinking that there should be hundreds of extra pounds per month in there. He keeps going 'Oh, just take it from the Halifax' regarding the bathroom fan, the guttering, and the PIV which I put on my card because I didn't want us getting damp and mould before we could do further house remedials. I'm supposed to be able to take £200/month, which obviously I can't because there's not enough in there.

Cleaning supplies? Halifax. Well obviously that can be 20-40 a month depending on what's needed.

Let alone small repairs!

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When we talked about buying the house and I went over these numbers, it was just for the above items. Not hiring a cleaner. Not home improvements. Not major repairs. Not education on home maintenance to reduce costs via DIY-ing the small stuff.

It's one of those things, again, where I'm going to have a talk with him because he's being financially utterly obtuse. At previous houses the rent didn't cover utilities or cleaning supplies, so of course it's more money than when we were renting.