I very much like your view better than anything put out in LKH or EL James or a lot of other authors that place all the power in the hands of the dominant and reduced all the submissives to mindless entities for the dominant to have sex with.

And much more than the kind of BDSM that uses misogyny as its reasoning why things should be and why men should always be in charge.

How come someone with a healthy BDSM relationship doesn't get a bestseller novel?