1) I thought part of what made Anita special and better than all us other gross girly girls is that she didn’t know shit about makeup and clothing? Now all of a sudden she’s a pro at it? Just in time to basically insult another a woman? HOW CONVIENIANT!
2) Exotic referring to people is fucked up to begin with, but pale skin and dark hair, again, not unusual. It’s how I look, and how my mom looks, albeit with blue eyes rather than brown like Anita and LKH, and when we went to Ireland, where my grandfather is from, that is how almost everyone looked. There were a pair of girls in the airport that could have been my damn triplets. I’ve seen plenty of pale brunettes here in the USA too, and while I did get called “exotic” once by a fellow pale-skinned brunette because I had blue eyes with my brown hair I think that had to do more with the area we were in not having a whole lot of Irish-descended folks. Sorry to keep bring up IRISH it’s just the only group I know of who are specifically known for being pale brunettes (though of course they occur in every white population, I’m sure). LKH has, as far as I know, completely Celtic heritage herself, so that explains her own looking like that…and thus makes me baffled as to why she thinks someone would have to be half-white and half-Mexican to look like it when she’s not half-Mexican at all.
3) All women know they’re attractive? Ingrained in us as little girls? ON WHAT FUCKING PLANET?! Even women who do manage to fit in to the *possible* aspects of beauty standards (white, cisgender, thin, able-bodied, clear skin, a specific facial shape and facial features, shaves, etc.) are still up against an impossible ideal; magazines edit out pores and the natural lines the body makes when it bends over, actually move the bones of models in photoshopping, etc. And if you’re not in this very narrow idea, if you’re fat or trans or visibly physically disabled or not white or just have the wrong set of features or have a scar or mole in the wrong place or acne or whatever, guess what, YOU KNOW THAT YOU ARE ‘UGLY’ AND ARE TREATED AS ‘LESS’ FOR IT. Obviously having bad zits is not on par with being trans, but you get my point, right?
4) I fail to see how Judith is evil. So she told people you were from her hubby’s first marriage? Given how much you clearly hated her replacing your mom, I think she was doing it for your sake, since she knew you’d probably hate the idea that people might think you were her mom. As for the Mexican thing…LKH is one of those people who thinks acknowledging a person isn’t white is racist (which…is more racist than not, because it suggest being POC is some embarrassing, taboo topic you shouldn’t bring up, like not mentioning someone has a big deformity or something) so the fact that Judith stated it aloud shows she’s clearly racist and wants Anita to hurt by being reminded she is, gasp, HALF MEXICAN! My headcanon is she noticed what a complex Anita seems to have over it and how bad she thinks it is, and was trying to show Anita that BEING NOT-WHITE IS A NORMAL AND OKAY THING YOU BATSHIT RACIST by casually mentioning it and showing her how no one she said it to thought less of Anita for it.
Like, I don't mean to pretend that people who are mixed-race do not suffer for it. But the way LKH treats it/Anita acts about it, it's portrayed not as if the problem is society being shitty, but as if being mixed is itself inherently just bad. Everything related to Anita's Mexican side is always portrayed as evil and dark, except for her dear mother and that's because she's DEAD.
5) THAT IS A LIE, YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND MUST BE POLY AND BI TOO, YOU CAN'T BE KINKY WHILE ALSO BEING STRAIGHT AND MONO, OR VICE VERSA!
6) I'm not into BDSM at all but I assumed a dungeon was, well, that. Or at least a room made up like the fantasy of one.
7) "Unless Richard's penis is the size of his forearm" It probably is, Anita says in Kiss the Dead that he's second in size only to Micah
8) Even if he somehow can't do PIV without it being rough, there are other things they can do! You'd think someone so ~not vanilla!~ would know that!
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2) Exotic referring to people is fucked up to begin with, but pale skin and dark hair, again, not unusual. It’s how I look, and how my mom looks, albeit with blue eyes rather than brown like Anita and LKH, and when we went to Ireland, where my grandfather is from, that is how almost everyone looked. There were a pair of girls in the airport that could have been my damn triplets. I’ve seen plenty of pale brunettes here in the USA too, and while I did get called “exotic” once by a fellow pale-skinned brunette because I had blue eyes with my brown hair I think that had to do more with the area we were in not having a whole lot of Irish-descended folks. Sorry to keep bring up IRISH it’s just the only group I know of who are specifically known for being pale brunettes (though of course they occur in every white population, I’m sure). LKH has, as far as I know, completely Celtic heritage herself, so that explains her own looking like that…and thus makes me baffled as to why she thinks someone would have to be half-white and half-Mexican to look like it when she’s not half-Mexican at all.
3) All women know they’re attractive? Ingrained in us as little girls? ON WHAT FUCKING PLANET?! Even women who do manage to fit in to the *possible* aspects of beauty standards (white, cisgender, thin, able-bodied, clear skin, a specific facial shape and facial features, shaves, etc.) are still up against an impossible ideal; magazines edit out pores and the natural lines the body makes when it bends over, actually move the bones of models in photoshopping, etc. And if you’re not in this very narrow idea, if you’re fat or trans or visibly physically disabled or not white or just have the wrong set of features or have a scar or mole in the wrong place or acne or whatever, guess what, YOU KNOW THAT YOU ARE ‘UGLY’ AND ARE TREATED AS ‘LESS’ FOR IT. Obviously having bad zits is not on par with being trans, but you get my point, right?
4) I fail to see how Judith is evil. So she told people you were from her hubby’s first marriage? Given how much you clearly hated her replacing your mom, I think she was doing it for your sake, since she knew you’d probably hate the idea that people might think you were her mom. As for the Mexican thing…LKH is one of those people who thinks acknowledging a person isn’t white is racist (which…is more racist than not, because it suggest being POC is some embarrassing, taboo topic you shouldn’t bring up, like not mentioning someone has a big deformity or something) so the fact that Judith stated it aloud shows she’s clearly racist and wants Anita to hurt by being reminded she is, gasp, HALF MEXICAN! My headcanon is she noticed what a complex Anita seems to have over it and how bad she thinks it is, and was trying to show Anita that BEING NOT-WHITE IS A NORMAL AND OKAY THING YOU BATSHIT RACIST by casually mentioning it and showing her how no one she said it to thought less of Anita for it.
Like, I don't mean to pretend that people who are mixed-race do not suffer for it. But the way LKH treats it/Anita acts about it, it's portrayed not as if the problem is society being shitty, but as if being mixed is itself inherently just bad. Everything related to Anita's Mexican side is always portrayed as evil and dark, except for her dear mother and that's because she's DEAD.
5) THAT IS A LIE, YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND MUST BE POLY AND BI TOO, YOU CAN'T BE KINKY WHILE ALSO BEING STRAIGHT AND MONO, OR VICE VERSA!
6) I'm not into BDSM at all but I assumed a dungeon was, well, that. Or at least a room made up like the fantasy of one.
7) "Unless Richard's penis is the size of his forearm" It probably is, Anita says in Kiss the Dead that he's second in size only to Micah
8) Even if he somehow can't do PIV without it being rough, there are other things they can do! You'd think someone so ~not vanilla!~ would know that!