The romances, particularly for male PCs are all kinds of messed up, starting with the fact that you're nearly always romancing a subordinate, which is not a good starting place. (And I don't think I've ever been as creeped out by a game as when Raina Temple came on to my Agent and gave me the very strong impression that, in the Imperial Military, it's standard operating proceedure to have sex with your subordinates, whether they like it or not.)

But clearly you're talking about more than that. What have I been blithely ignoring? I can think of a few other things (Vette's back story, for one), but I don't know whether it's a matter of classes played or my own inobservance.