This is why I will become a Supervillain
The following exchange has happened way too often in my life:
Person (almost always a girl or woman): X is maybe being shitty and making me feel shitty and I've told them the problems and they won't change. *lists examples of X being incredibly terribly shitty to the nth degree* Are they actually being shitty or should I stop having any feelings at all, because I have been raised to believe I am disallowed from having feelings?
Me: X is being so shitty. SO shitty. Your feelings are more than justified.
Person: More about X being shitty, worry about having feelings/being "irrational".
Me: X is being shitty. You are more than justified in your feelings and are totally rational.
Person: Okay, but I should let X continue to be totally shitty toward me because I don't want to hurt their feelings.
Me: *looks up how to make an earthquake machine*
Person (almost always a girl or woman): X is maybe being shitty and making me feel shitty and I've told them the problems and they won't change. *lists examples of X being incredibly terribly shitty to the nth degree* Are they actually being shitty or should I stop having any feelings at all, because I have been raised to believe I am disallowed from having feelings?
Me: X is being so shitty. SO shitty. Your feelings are more than justified.
Person: More about X being shitty, worry about having feelings/being "irrational".
Me: X is being shitty. You are more than justified in your feelings and are totally rational.
Person: Okay, but I should let X continue to be totally shitty toward me because I don't want to hurt their feelings.
Me: *looks up how to make an earthquake machine*